I do not believe all opponents of gay marriage are hateful. Some have just not been exposed to the right arguments, and so I will demonstrate here that each anti-gay marriage argument ultimately serves to oppress or imply the lesser status of the minority of which I am a part. In rallying against the introduction of equal marriage, religious campaigners have frequently stressed that their objections are not driven by homophobia, and have deployed numerous arguments to demonstrate this. To the untrained ear these arguments sound like they may have grounding in reason, but on closer inspection reveal themselves as homophobic.
A nice piece from Jason Wakefield, writing on the New Humanist. This is a U.K. site and, as such, much of the data is Euro- or Anglo-centric. Doesn’t matter, really. You can find the U.S. equivalents if you’d like; they’re buried down about a quarter of an inch in any Google search.