400 – 175 For Marriage Equality In Britain « The Dish

400 – 175 For Marriage Equality In Britain « The Dish.

February 5, 2013 in London, England.

February 5, 2013 in London, England. Image: The Dish.

Sullivan dishes on the House of Commons vote today on marriage equality and a few additional issues we could learn a thing or two about from his home country. I posted this on my Facebook page today and said, “It it passes the Lords, how does one immigrate?” Several friends chuckled, one suggested it would be closer to move to Iowa, but, well, no.

If I could swing it — need to work unless I win the lottery — I’d jump ship in a New York minute. Liverpool minute. Northumbrian minute. Whatever.

God Save the Queen.

Ace Of Cakes Offers to Make Rebuffed Oregon Lesbian Couple’s Cake For Free

"Ace of Cakes," Duff Goldman. Image: Extended Image Photography/WikimediaCommons

“Ace of Cakes,” Duff Goldman. Image: Extended Image Photography – WikimediaCommons

Things might soon be looking up for the lesbian brides-to-be who were denied a wedding cake by an Oregon bakery.

In the wake of the incident, Baltimore-based pastry chef and “Ace of Cakes” star Duff Goldman is sending out an open offer to the couple, saying he’ll bake and transport their wedding cake completely free of charge.

via Duff Goldman, ‘Ace Of Cakes’ Chef, Offers To Bake Rejected Lesbian Couple’s Wedding Cake For Free.

This makes me happy. I always got a kick out of Duff, plus he’s from my hometown* and he makes the old Charm City look great. I used to work not to very far from his bakery, but have never had one of his cakes. My partner has always wanted one. Maybe when we get married….

*Okay, I wasn’t really born there, but I love Baltimore and the place I am actually from is kind of repellent!

Wyoming Gay Rights: Conservative State Takes Small Steps Forward

“I think people are beginning to realize that this is just not a big deal. The sky doesn’t fall,” said Sen. Cale Case, R-Lander, who signed on as a co-sponsor on the anti-discrimination bill. He said recent decisions on gay rights in the courts, the military and other states are bleeding into the state’s consciousness.

In this year’s session, for the first time in years, no one sponsored “defense of marriage” legislation seeking to prevent the state from recognizing same-sex unions performed elsewhere.

via Wyoming Gay Rights: Conservative State Takes Small Steps Forward. Huffington Post Gay Voices.

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The late Sen. Barry Goldwater (R-AZ) famously supported gay rights.

This may surprise people who are only familiar with today’s conservative movement, but old line conservatives get it. The late Barry Goldwater, the Republicans’ 1964 presidential candidate, was known as “Mr. Conservative” but he had little to do with a conservative movement that he saw as co-opted by the religious right.

[In 1989, he] stated that the Republican party had been taken over by a “bunch of kooks.” In a 1994 interview with the Washington Post the retired senator said, “When you say “radical right” today, I think of these moneymaking ventures by fellows like Pat Robertson and others who are trying to take the Republican party and make a religious organization out of it. If that ever happens, kiss politics goodbye.” (Conservpedia)

He had no use for Jerry Falwell, either. He famously said, “Every good Christian ought to kick Falwell right in the ass.”

As to gay issues, Goldwater claimed that gay rights just made good conservative common sense. When the military’s ban on gay and lesbian service members was under fire in the early ’90s, Goldwater said flatout, “Everyone knows that gays have served honorably in the military since at least the time of Julius Caesar.”  He also said, “You don’t have to be straight to be in the military; you just have to be able to shoot straight.”

My dad was what I liked to refer to as a “Goldwater wingnut.” When I was a little kid, I’m sure we had the only Volkswagen bus with Goldwater ’64 bumper stickers. Later in life, Dad got “religion” and became a Clinton Democrat and we stopped arguing about politics and started agreeing on issues. It was weird! HA!

Today, I wish Dad was still around to knock around these issues with me. I think we’d both agree that gay rights, women’s rights, all civil rights, in fact, are real conservative values. Like Goldwater — and perhaps, Wyoming’s own famously conservative thinker Alan Simpson — Dad and I would likely agree that today’s Republican party has no roots in the historic Republican party.

Gay Teen Bullying Study In England Finds It Does Get Better

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The seven-year study involved more than 4,000 teens in England who were questioned yearly through 2010, until they were 19 and 20 years old. At the start, just over half of the 187 gay, lesbian and bisexual teens said they had been bullied; by 2010 that dropped to 9 percent of gay and bisexual boys and 6 percent of lesbian and bisexual girls.

The researchers said the same results likely would be found in the United States.

via Gay Teen Bullying Study In England Finds It Does Get Better. AP story via Huffington Post Gay Voices.

The It Gets Better Project is one of the greatest initiatives launched in recent memory. It’s such a genius idea. I think most of what Dan Savage does is genius, truth be told.

Hollyoaks, the UK soap, is in the midst of a long-term bullying story arc. Grittier and more real than anything we see on TV in the US. I’ve linked to the Channel 4 website, but you can’t view it in the US unless you’re sneaky!

Gay Teen Boys And Highschool Romance

My eldest son came home from school to inform me that he thought one of his schoolmates liked him, because they slipped a self-authored poem to him in the hallway. And even though it’s not really surprising, his admirer was also a boy.

via Gay Teen Boys And Highschool Romance – My Teenage Son Has A Gay Suitor.

This is a sweet story by a rockin’ mom! The link is to the site “mommyish” which, I assure you, I do not read! LOL I got to it from HuffPo. Anyhow, worth a read.

How ‘Bare’ Helped One Of It’s Stars Come Out

‘Bare The Musical’ Star Casey Garvin: How The Off-Broadway Show Helped Him Come Out As Gay.

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Casey Garvin, who is in the Off-Broadway revival/reinvention of ‘Bare.’ Photo: Huffington Post

 

Well, good for Casey. Note, however, that he’s talking about the pre-2012 version of Bare, not the one he’s performing in.

I’m just a broken freaking record, but this show has so much potential, so many terrific performances, and it’s just neutered in its present form. I’ve written about this several times. (HERE) and (HERE)

Still, it doesn’t mitigate the fact that in some incarnation it helped this young man understand who he was. You won’t ever hear me discounting the power of theatre to change lives. No, not ever.

Less Hate; More Pizza!

Joel Diaz And Ethan White, Gay Men Harassed While Waiting For Pizza, Speak Out.

Can’t believe I haven’t blogged about this yet. It’s a terrific story of people standing up for equality. In Ohio. In the middle of winter. You may not realize that tolerant people are alive and well in Ohio — the state that gave the nation John Boehner — but it is. Diaz’s original post on Facebook went viral. It’s also terrific. There are a couple of videos worth watching in this link from Huffington Post Gay Voices.

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Maryland Gay Marriage: Same-Sex Couples Prepare For Jan. 1 Weddings

Gay couples are preparing for New Year’s Day weddings in the first state south of the Mason-Dixon Line to allow same-sex marriage, which will become legal in Maryland on Tuesday.

via Maryland Gay Marriage: Same-Sex Couples Prepare For Jan. 1 Weddings.

So happy for Maryland, a place I’ve adopted as home, even though I was born and raised elsewhere. When I lived in Maryland, O’Malley was generally referred to in our crowd as “the Boy Mayor of Baltimore.” Hot AND played in a band. What’s not to love??

Maryland Gov. Martin O'Malley looks on before signing the Civil Marriage Protection Act in Annapolis, Md., Thursday, March 1, 2012. Maryland is the eighth state to legalize same-sex unions. (AP Photo/Patrick Semansky)

Maryland Gov. Martin O’Malley looks on before signing the Civil Marriage Protection Act in Annapolis, Md., Thursday, March 1, 2012. Maryland is the eighth state to legalize same-sex unions. (AP Photo/Patrick Semansky)

‘Amazing Race’ winners to bullied gay youth: ‘You’re Amazing!’ – LGBTQ Nation

‘Amazing Race’ winners to bullied gay youth: ‘You’re Amazing!’ – LGBTQ Nation.

Brent Ridge, Josh Kilmer-Purcell  - The Fabulous Beekman Boys - and Polka Spot the llama.

Brent Ridge, Josh Kilmer-Purcell – The Fabulous Beekman Boys – and Polka Spot the llama.

I loved Josh Kilmer-Purcell’s book about buying the Beekman Farm, the hilarious The Bucolic Plague. I loved watching Josh and Brent on The Fabulous Beekman Boys. I even bought a wheel of Beekman Blaak cheese — which was awesome. I’m ecstatic that they won The Amazing Race. But mostly, I’m thankful that someone out there is simply standing up for basic common decency. We need more of this. So much more.

Thank you, gentleman, for being amazing yourselves!

Gavin Newsom: Honoring the True Principles of the Boy Scouts

In defending this hurtful and discriminatory policy barring gay youth and leaders, the Boy Scouts of America are simply standing on the wrong side of history. And in doing so, the Boy Scouts are hurting the very people that it aims to serve: the young men who participate in scout programs.

via Gavin Newsom: Honoring the True Principles of the Boy Scouts.

Terrific piece on HuffPo today by California Lt. Governor Gavin Newsom. He’s bang on the money. As a gay man and a former Boy Scout, I can tell you this: today’s scout leadership is defying the very principles that Scouts are supposed to life by.